I came across this picture on the internet. I remember this as if it were just yesterday. This very moment.
Crawling out of that dark aisle of pain…
(The photo above is of ) My sister and I sitting in front of Rex’s casket holding me as I cried the strongest cry I’ve ever cried… I remember walking down the aisle as my heart broke into a million pieces that very moment. I was carrying such a heavy heart down that aisle.
I always pictured myself walking down the aisle on my wedding day, not the aisle that led to my future husband’s grave.
but that was life. that was the risk. that was destiny. I read aloud my wedding vows that day just as I had promised him I would.
The Journey of Grieving & where I find myself today:
grieving. giving yourself permission to cry. allowing yourself to feel. it’s just part of the process.
How do you escape from pain? someone once said that if you are feeling pain, then at least you know you are alive.
so those moments when I felt dead inside, I was actually more alive.
I’ve come a long way since 6 months ago when the biggest tragedy of my life happened.
“grieving the loss of who you were can prevent you from opening the door to who you are right now”
Looking deeply into my own eyes and telling myself who I see. Eyes are the windows of the soul. Eyes can reveal much about who we are and who we can be.
Forgiveness. Along with Rex’s death came resentment and pain amongst family members and drama, but I don’t hold any grudge as forgiveness is not condoning a wrong. Forgiveness is about freedom for myself. Letting go of resentment and pain and accepting what is. Forgiveness=freedom. The emotions that don’t allow you to forgive someone keep you trapped in the past, and forgiving myself is also very important. Letting go of the past and accept the gift of the present moment.
so now.
here are the questions.
Imagining who I am, and who I will be.
What do I see?
Who can I be?
Can fear be transformed into possibilities?
So… who am I really in the inside?
I am not my grief, and the moment I realize this fact… is the beginning of the rest of my life.
two ways of living my life. nothing is a miracle. the other is as though everything is a miracle – albert einstein.
My life is a miracle.
Here comes gratitude. Oh the POWER of gratitude.
Transform your grief into gratitude and joy. One thing I am grateful for everyday. My bed, My coffee, My co workers, My family, My friends, a flower… a sunny day perhaps… The list is endless.
Gratitude can change your life, if you let it.
EMERGENCE: (this is where I am at in my life right this very moment)
Becoming visible. reclaiming your life and revealing who you really are, evolving and developing… Kaleidoscope of color and sound and emotion that is ME right now.
Who will i be in one month?
who will i be in three months?
who will i be in six months?
who will i be in one year or three years?
who will i be in five years?
Oh the possibilities.
My life is unfolding day by day. The world is waiting for the gifts that only I can share, the world is waiting for the gift that is “me”.
Like a butterfly emerges from the darkness of the cocoon.
The beauty of the butterfly is absolutely magnificent.
Beauty, real beauty often shrouds the courage and effort that preceded this miraculous transformation.
I can remember, cry, smile, I am being real.
I share my life because the world is incomplete without the magnificent light and life.
No beginning.. no ending.. just now.
No birth, no death, just now. Just LOVE.
I must go now, as life awaits and endless possibilities.
I will honor Rex, by living everyday of my life to the fullest and finding happiness as he would want it that way… he would want only the best for me.
(excerpts taken from the book “Move beyond grief journal” who has been extremely helpful to me within my journey)
Xoxo,
Sabrina